Once again, nothing has changed on the adoption front. It's sort of sad that this is becoming our standard. I wish there was some sort of something coming from our agency that we could share!
In the rest of our life, we're both gearing up for a very busy July. Ann is looking forward to spending a week at the county fair working a booth for her parents which will be followed by a week in Florida with family - yay! David is super super SUPER excited about the ComedySportz World Championship which is taking place in Indy for the first time. Our house sustained some hail damage in two storms in June, so we are now in the process of choosing a contractor to complete the repairs - a new roof for both the house & the garage as well as new siding on the house. It will be great when it's done, but there are soooo many decisions to be made!
Friday, July 1, 2011
Monday, June 6, 2011
Same old same old
Nothing new to report on the adoption front.
Same "status" from the agency as always - our book has been shown and it was positively received.
In other "life" related news, we planted a garden in our three new raised beds (built with gracious help from Ann's dad and brother), we've planned a little vacation to Puerto Rico to visit Ann's best friend, we've been to Wisconsin a few times in the past few weeks to visit Sweet Pea & Skinny Minny, and we've starting talking about the plans to redo our kitchen cabinets.
The world still keeps spinning even though we wish it would stop for just a minute!
Same "status" from the agency as always - our book has been shown and it was positively received.
In other "life" related news, we planted a garden in our three new raised beds (built with gracious help from Ann's dad and brother), we've planned a little vacation to Puerto Rico to visit Ann's best friend, we've been to Wisconsin a few times in the past few weeks to visit Sweet Pea & Skinny Minny, and we've starting talking about the plans to redo our kitchen cabinets.
The world still keeps spinning even though we wish it would stop for just a minute!
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
So many people...
So many people around us are having kids. Lots of them. Since we started this journey, there have been literally dozens of kids born to friends, family members, coworkers, and acquaintances.
And I'm happy for most of them. A few of them, not so much, and I'm a little ashamed it takes me to a place where I compare Ann and me to them as potential parents, and judge myself a superior candidate.
Which makes it all the more disheartening that we haven't been selected yet.
I'm so tired of hearing that the one we get will be the one that God wants us to have and all of that sort of stuff. I'm not saying I don't believe it; I'm saying that it's not all that comforting.
I've half-joked with some friends that I feel like the last kid on the playground getting picked for kickball... but really, it sometimes feels worse than that. Because in this playground, other kids keep showing up and getting picked before me.
I thought about not writing this post, because I want people who read this to know that I'm fighting the good fight and remaining patient and optimistic and all that. But the truth is that there are days where there's a hole in my heart, where I want to ask God why years of praying to be somebody's Daddy has resulted in nothing.
You all know that poem about a dream deferred? And at the end it asks, "...or does it explode?"
When we get this kid, he or she is going to be directly in the blast zone of all this ready-to-pop parental love we have. This kid is going to be drenched in love.
And I'm happy for most of them. A few of them, not so much, and I'm a little ashamed it takes me to a place where I compare Ann and me to them as potential parents, and judge myself a superior candidate.
Which makes it all the more disheartening that we haven't been selected yet.
I'm so tired of hearing that the one we get will be the one that God wants us to have and all of that sort of stuff. I'm not saying I don't believe it; I'm saying that it's not all that comforting.
I've half-joked with some friends that I feel like the last kid on the playground getting picked for kickball... but really, it sometimes feels worse than that. Because in this playground, other kids keep showing up and getting picked before me.
I thought about not writing this post, because I want people who read this to know that I'm fighting the good fight and remaining patient and optimistic and all that. But the truth is that there are days where there's a hole in my heart, where I want to ask God why years of praying to be somebody's Daddy has resulted in nothing.
You all know that poem about a dream deferred? And at the end it asks, "...or does it explode?"
When we get this kid, he or she is going to be directly in the blast zone of all this ready-to-pop parental love we have. This kid is going to be drenched in love.
Friday, February 18, 2011
A minor update?
Nothing much has really changed. Still waiting.
We did change our preference with the agency though to an open adoption OR a semi-open adoption. In the past, we just went with semi-open. In talking with our co-ordinator though, most of the adoptions in the past year were open.
What does this mean?
It means that the birthmom and ourselves will have more direct access to one another. All contact will not have to be filtered by the agency. We will share an e-mail address with her and most likely one of our cell phone numbers. We could arrange to see her at a location away from the agency offices. We can still meet at the agency, and their counselors will be available to us at any time. If the open-ness of the relationship becomes an issue, the agency will gladly step in to help all parties reach a satisfactory state of being.
It's a little scary to be that open about letting a "stranger" into our lives in this way, but this person will really not be a stranger. We'll be connected in the most awesome way.
We did change our preference with the agency though to an open adoption OR a semi-open adoption. In the past, we just went with semi-open. In talking with our co-ordinator though, most of the adoptions in the past year were open.
What does this mean?
It means that the birthmom and ourselves will have more direct access to one another. All contact will not have to be filtered by the agency. We will share an e-mail address with her and most likely one of our cell phone numbers. We could arrange to see her at a location away from the agency offices. We can still meet at the agency, and their counselors will be available to us at any time. If the open-ness of the relationship becomes an issue, the agency will gladly step in to help all parties reach a satisfactory state of being.
It's a little scary to be that open about letting a "stranger" into our lives in this way, but this person will really not be a stranger. We'll be connected in the most awesome way.
Monday, December 20, 2010
No news.
We are now in the "average" time span for waiting -- 15 to 18 months.
I'm trying not to get my hopes up that this means our time is coming soon... but I'm also trying not to be too pessimistic about it.
I'm trying not to get my hopes up that this means our time is coming soon... but I'm also trying not to be too pessimistic about it.
Friday, November 5, 2010
Unbelievable
Unbeknownst to us, the rules have changed in Indiana for adoptive parents. We have to update our home study paperwork, including getting brand new forms signed by our doctors, new background checks from the counties we have lived in for the past five years (which means taking a day off work), new financial statements...
I saw an e-mail from the agency and my heart skipped a beat. I thought maybe there was news of a birth mother who had chosen us.
Instead, it was more hoops to jump through.
MORE HOOPS.
I saw an e-mail from the agency and my heart skipped a beat. I thought maybe there was news of a birth mother who had chosen us.
Instead, it was more hoops to jump through.
MORE HOOPS.
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
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